We do not go into relationships to be defined by them,
actually- we go in to share ourselves and to learn. They are a life-learning-love-affair, relationships.
We do not go in to lose ourselves to the other party- we must maintain our individuality. That's why we are different after all right? Our individuality? Our personality?
It is about relating- though (hopefully) one(united) in purpose, they allow us to bring traits to the table that the other may not have; and the event that they do(have the traits)-well, the sharpening thereof. After all: iron sharpens iron.
Though we ought to compromise- I say be open to compromising to the extent that you have a clear conscience.
Conscience is everything- it reminds us of the values we hold dear.
As one author once said: "Those who stand for nothing fall for anything"
I have watched many movies and interestingly I have discovered that most of the time when someone has cheated on their partner (driven more by emotional connections than lust) is asked why they did it, the reply is often:
" He saw me (the real me- like you never did). He took note of me"
Then this morning it hit me. People will never see you (for who you are) unless you see (and take note of) yourself (the real you). Least of all the people you are currently in relationships with. It is when you start "becoming" that you attract those that "see" (and take note of) your light.
The past few weeks have made me feel as though I had become everything I have always not wanted to be. Then yesterday I read a Joyce Meyer quote where she says " Don't mourn bad decisions- overcome them with good ones".
Consistency/Diligence
The other day a friend of mine said she would not do something with anymore because I was inconsistent. Initially it was a hard one to swallow. I was hurt and offended. But aren't we always? Especially when someone addresses something that is truthful about us. I had always had problems being consistent. My argument? " Oh I get bored easily. Things must be more exciting. I have come to the end of 'this' journey". Oh boy! How many of us have said that, right?
Interestingly- inconsistency is really costly. Like seriously expensive. Consider all the failures you have suffered- what is at the core? Bad decisions demonstrating the inability to apply ourselves consistently (ie make good decisions every time). How much have we spent re-doing courses? Joining societies at the beginning of the yearly merely driven by excitement and not following through? Up-downs in our faith walk? Prayer life? Health? Inconsistency is costly. The costs are more than financial, it is the suffering you endure- the consequences of bad decision making. Someone recently said that there is no such a thing as "time management", it is about self-management. How true this is! " A man without self control is like a city without walls" (Proverbs). It is not easy BUT it is worth it. The bible in Proverbs 12:27 says "The lazy do not roast any game, BUT the diligent feed (feast) on the riches of the hunt". So diligence is a conscious effort, a decision. We can conclude that it is the act of DOING something right over and over until it is mastered. It is an action. Whether it is the consistency to study the Word, to pray, to stick to your blood-type based diet despite your weakness for pumpkin which is precluded (talking about self), or just loving consistently; may PahPah-God grant you the strength to press on and push on, because it is His will for us to have (and cultivate) good habits and to enjoy everyday life.
Welcome to the Thabang "becoming" diary
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